Below is an evolving list of resources that might be helpful. Some are practical guides for solving particular challenges, and some are just informative.  

A N X I E T Y   A N D   S T R E S S

Calming Your Anxious Mind, by Jeffrey Brantley — mindfulness techniques for fear and anxiety

National Institute of Mental Health — Anxiety Disorders 

Kaiser Guided Imagery Program — listen to or download stress reduction, relaxation, guided imagery, mindfulness, and pain management audio programs for free 

F O R   M E N   &   T E E N   B O Y S

Iron Man Family Outing, by Rick Belden — poems about transition into a more conscious manhood

The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure, by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D.

The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart: Poems for Men, Edited by James Hillman, Michael Meade and Robert Bly

More Than Moody: Recognizing and Treating Adolescent Depression, by Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D.  

Understanding Men's Passages: Discovering the New Map of Men’s Lives, by Gail Sheehy 


Boys of Few Words: Raising Our Sons to Communicate and Connect, by Adam J. Cox, Ph.D. 

Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind, by Michael J. Bradley, Ed.D. 

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson

Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood, by William Pollack

Parenting From the Inside Out, by Mary Hartzell and Daniel Siegel — how a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive

The Price of Privilege, by Madeline Levine — how parental pressure and material advantage are creating a generation of disconnected and unhappy kids 

The Courage To Raise Good Men, by Olga Silverstein and Beth Rashmaum 

Staying Connected to Your Teenager, by Michael Riera, Ph.D.   

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting, by John Gottman, Ph.D. — A guide for understanding your child on an emotional level and learning how to communicate and interact in healthy ways 

C O U P L E S   &   R E L A T I O N S H I P S

The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman 

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail . . . and How You Can Make Yours Last, by John Gottman, Ph.D.

Married to Distraction: Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Interruption, by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and Sue George Hallowell, LCSW

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. 

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, by Patricia Love, ED.D. and Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women, by Terrence Real

The New Rules of Marriage: A Breakthrough Program for 21st Century Relationships, by Terrence Real

You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, by Deborah Tannen

The Gottman Relationship Institute — resources from 30 years of research on how to have happy relationships that will last

Center for Nonviolent Communication — articles and audioclips on how to express your needs without generating defensiveness in your partner

T R A U M A,   S E X U A L   A S S A U L T,   &   A B U S E

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (RAINN) — the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization, with a 24-hour hotline

Bay Area Women Against Rape (BAWAR) — Confidential and free 24-hour hotline (510) 845-7273

California Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CALCASA) —  Provides leadership, vision, and resources to rape crisis centers and individuals committed to ending sexual violence. 

G E N E R A L   I N T E R E S T

Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment, by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D. 

Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes, by William Bridges — strategies for coping with difficult, painful, and confusing times in your life

Getting Unstuck, by Pema Chodron — ideas for coping with difficulty, seeing new perspectives, and changing your habitual patterns of behavior 

Full Catastrophe Living, by Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D. — the program of the stress reduction clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, which teachers the technique of mindfulness to face stress, pain, and illness 

The Feeling Good Handbook, by David Burns, M.D.